So being violent to women is wrong, murdering people (provided they're the 'right' people) is good ?

I thought that was double standards ?

it is. not everything in the world needs to make sense, in fact, very little actually does. I think that is why nerds get into math in a big way.

Besides war is not illegal, nor is it murder, collateral damage is not a war crime. If the allies had your attitude in WWII we'd all be pretty screwed right now.