Are you making an analogy to LFS? If so, here's the true one:
on the phone your date tells you that she'll meet you at the pub at 7pm.
at 6:55 she calls you and tells you she won't make it. She'll call again when she's ready.
The next day, you call her, asking what's up.
She tells you that she's going through some issues, and she'll call you when she's ready.
The next day, you call her, asking what's up.
She tells you to stop calling her everyday already.
The next day, you call her, asking what's up.
She tells you she's getting a restraining order.