You really should grow a pair, what do you achieve by saying that? You are either seeking sympathy or seeking an apology, both of which are pathetic. What you need to do (if what you say it true anyway) is get some stones, deal with it, and accept the fact that people will always joke about things sensitive to others, how arrogant is it, that just because this has happened to YOU, that you will stop others from joking about it? If you were actually bothered by the post then you wouldn't of said anything, because then that sends a message to the whole forum that you are easily bothered.
And not many men are too eager to show their weaknesses, least of all on the internet where you will, WILL be abused for your weaknesses and on the internet you can pretend to be someone else, infact, you can pretend not to be pathetic..
Surely the decent thing to do is not mention it at all (since the scenario in the picture would be quite humiliating) so the family member/person you know can RIP with some bloody dignity, in the knowledge that the whole internet doesn't know the degrading way in which they were taken off the earth.