My advice is, if you really want grip, handling and safety, DON'T use lower and stiffer springs with OEM dampers. A potentially deadly combination that if you happen to be to excite it enough, would cause very uncontrolled oscillations with great potential to get you out of control. This assumes the average case whereby the OEM dampers are significantly worn.
In practice, with BMWs, that depends on the condition of your OEM dampers. If they are still nice and taut, they can cope pretty well with normal driving since European cars tend to be tuned with good rebound damping (in general). Don't bother trying to test its absolute limits though. Controllability issues crop up in severe transient conditions such as slalom courses, autocross, or even on road collision evasion. In short you end up paying more money to get LESS overall performance. If you are lucky (or unlucky depending on your point of view) enough to hit regular sequences of bumps at the "correct" speed to excite the system at its natural frequency, the significantly underdamped system could oscillate out of control and the car bounce uncontrollably. All this depends on the actual rate of the lowered springs too though.
As e2mustang said, the Bilstein PSS9 system is ideal for you if you want a lowered car with significantly improved cornering performance. Another path involves the use of Eibach progressive lowering springs and Koni Sport dampers which have very adjustable rebound (stiffest can be up to twice as stiff as softest setting). Or you can check
www.koni.com and look for an FSD suspension package.
F - Frequency
S - Selective
D - Damping
Basically a damper that softens itself if the frequency of motion is high enough to reach or exceed a preset threshold. This allows excellent handling since cornering involves relatively lower frequency motions whilst allowing excellent bump compliance, improving both comfort and grip on less than flat surfaces.