Well, I don't really 'look after' my Mum, we don't really get on, she's not so disabled that she needs me about all the time, so I keep to myself. The reason I'm unemployed at the moment is that I can't find a decent job outside of McDonalds or something, and I refuse to work there. She does get some limited benefits but they're only just enough to live, and we often have no heating or hot water
As for your analagy, I can understand and know alot of people like that. Maybe myself, idk
But as you say, you've obviously had a good education, finished Uni and what not, and have found a good paying job, but unfortunatly it's not that easy for some of us.
(I mean, I could get a job in BK or McDonalds tommorow but why? Within a few weeks hopefully I'll have an apprenticeship and I'll lose what's left of my pride working at a place like that)