It's an interesting opening post. I find I agree with some of it, but not all. Perhaps an open letter to all sim developers isn't really going to make any headway. The currently developed sims are all already rather disparate in their focus.
It's inconceivable, at least to me, that sim developers like iRacing, LFS, ISI et al, have not already considered in their own fields all of the points raised. They have forged ahead with their own lists of priorities and areas of focus. Unlike the receiving market - the consumer - it's very specifically their business, their income and their working passion. Few of us spend 8hrs+ per day pondering the development direction of a given sim but I'm sure that the actual racing sim developers do. And then some.
As to the importance of the tyre/suspension models, I'm afraid I'm with the sim developers. Whether they like it or not (and they possibly are perhaps even irked by it), the fact is that WE (said customers) prioritize tyre, suspension and aero physics as definitive elements in determining a sim's worth. Rightly or wrongly, we will NOT buy a sim (
sim,
SIM,
SIM!!) that doesn't model these things at least well, and at least with these things as points of focus. Sim developers have little/no choice but to maximise on the simulation of these aspects of vehicle physics for the sake of credibility. And like it or not, the racing-sim-buying public give massive worth to these aspects.
So, to gameplay.. well, all sim developers have different ideas about gameplay. All the current sims operate in different ways. Some are primarily offline stuff with online bolt-on, LFS and iRacing are focused on the multiplayer side of sim racing - and even these are fundamentally different orientations to the same goal; rF focuses clearly on the community modding aspects and less on the application of real-world physics simulation. There are already fundamental differences in direction for all the existing sims. An open letter to them all is, tbh, not really going to crater the surface of their businesses or seize their attention, much less stop them in their tracks and make them realise their direction and focus has been wrong.
Sorry but I just don't see it happening.. they're all far too successful at doing what they're doing to hear a single voice in the consumer crowd