i have forwarded all my ports, i have disabled my firewall temporarily, but my friend still cant connect, why is this?

Tell us some more!
Are you using dedicated or in LFS program?

What is your IP or your game name and I will try to connect?

What OS are you using and how is your computer connected to the internet? (Directly to modem or networked through a router or switch?)

im using a wireless router(Wireless-G ADSL Gateway with SpeedBooster)
xp home edition
its a non dedi server
my friend cant connect and i cant connect on my bro's username
search my username "Vane" for the server password will be "pass"

Yeah I can't connect either. I would imagine its your router settings, has your router got the firewall turned off? Also apart from opening ports you will have to forward them on to the correct local IP address so that the router "knows" where to direct the external traffic to.

What is your IP address (http://www.ip-adress.com/ )? PM it too me if you think it is unsecure, I can then check you have the correct ports accessible. I have a slightly different setup to you but I have ports 63392(UDP&TCP), 29339 (UDP&TCP) - those are the basic ports which you need to direct.

James