Yup, this is the kind of usefull posts that XSnoose is talking about, we should all post like this to be up to his high standards.
But no, seriously, I never said I was better, I was just clearly pointing out that you were and are still talking complete bolloks, I mean telling married guys how a womens mind works, LOL. Then telling the younger generation how "things work" You should write a book with all your storys, you would fit right in the bedtime storys section.
I never said I was better or felt that I implyed it at all (If I did I apologise) and I definetely am not full of myself, What do I have to be full of myself about, that I spend to much of my life on this slow ass pc? Or maybe the fact that I have a scooter that is held toghether with tie raps and celetape.
Btw "Jackass" Read my post again, I never said that you didn't see any sun, I was talking to Jack.
As much as I would like to agree, I'm still not sure how you can be offended by what I say, yet you can tell these guys they make you sad and arrogantly ask them what age they are. Seems that you can give but you can't take to me.
Are you sure your gunna turn 18? You must be joking me, it's not as if YOU HAVE IT SPLASHED EVERYWHERE IT COULD POSSIBLY BE...is it? O well, I guess you must be pretty proud that your nearly 18, The whole nation will shed a tear when you finally do.
Me? Sarcastic? You MUST be joking, but to be honest, i'm rather having fun seeing every reply you put up. It's sad how entertained I am by some guy whos NEARLY 18, YES HE'S NEARLY 18 ALL!!!!!!
Can you please do me a favour Snoose, go back through this thread and read EVERY post that you put up, then you might see where i'm coming from.
I will be retreiting to my bed soon if that's what you want to hear, but I assure you, none of my worrys are connected to this thread, but if I were you, i'd be editting all your posts and saying someone got on your account. Arn't you embarrissed about your posts, maybe you storys about women seemed good at the time, but they nearly reduced me to tears!
lol. btw this topic hasn't been such a great read this morning due to 2 people but thank you burnout and becky for getting us back on topic. I love you guys.
The thing is, XCN didnt play the role of a "relationship guru" at the first place - he was rather rummaging in his mind, trying to express his principles with words. Of course, different people have different principles, but I must admit that his ones at least don't prove him stupid or childish. He is a thinker.
Not everyone will understand what I want to say, but it's about being "sensitive" in general. Im aware this word doesn't fit really, but what I mean is the general way of walking around and experiencing your environment.
"It's all about emotions" (one of the most important slogans for designers).
Maybe it's one of life's most difficult challenges to not feel ashamed for your own feelings. It's not easy, specially when other guys are around, to behave the way you want to. If you try to be "cool", many girls will find you annoying or ridiculous. Just imagine the following situation:
A girl on a sidewalk accidentally drops her handbag. Some "cool" boys driving past in their car would be shouting "stoop ya". You can imagine what most girls would think.
Someone with balls would brake, get out of the car, and pick the handbag up for her
Of course, this is an extreme situation - and there are many facettes between the two groups of boys, and you can't say where exactly the "best" would be placed. At least somewhere in the middie I guess. Also, it depends on the character of the girl, how you have to behave. But don't try to change your own behaviour, it will not work, specially not within a longer space of time.
I guess this sorta explains what XCN might have wanted to say. Dunno though lol
Oh, have I mentioned yet that I dont have a girlfriend?
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Just to make sure nobody will get that wrong, "not feel ashamed for your own feelings" doesn't mean "crying all day long".
Boys (Men) dont do that anyways.
and just a little tip for you bawbag, i have looked at my posts back from RSC a few times and saw how i acted like you; you can do it too, go look at some of my posts from RSC and see how fed up i got and offensive whenever someone disagreed
luckily thats not what im like anymore because of a girl i know
and thats what has led me here, to hopefully help some of you guys that seek help; im not standing in place of a professional as i (and orion) pointed out, you cant compare relationships side by side, its much more complex than that; so instead i give advice that might (should/hopefully) help in the situation
but to put this all into perspective for you all, im not against sex at all; first of all i know nothing about it, and the reason you see me somewhat negative about it, is its not really something thats talked about in public most of the time; going along with orions how to treat a girl thing there, you wouldn't just go up to some lady and say.. hey babe lets go back to my place and have sex........... er.. no, thats not how it works; but it if does, then eventually later in your life i can promise you that you're going to want to have a real relationship, and thats what im getting at, (these next few words may sound strange but ..owell) i look further into the future down the line, meaning that right now you may just want to have a girlfriend to just kiss and fool around with, but later on in life when you start thinking about [real] marraiges, your going to want to have a real relationship that you can depend on
on a personal note, i will tell you that im proud to be turning 18 and it IS a big deal in america seeing that I have the ability to vote on the next president
I have big girlfriend issues, so don't ask advice to me !!
I went from having a girlfriend, to having a friend, and now a person that probably hates me, in just barely a few weeks time! aaaaaaah, life is complicated
I dont think it is impossible. I think it depends on the people and how you break up. THe people part as in if yu get upset n angry and shout alot, or you just accept it. Like the reaction the guy n gurl have from breaking up. How you break up as well - If you break up in the middle of arguement or you break up cause its best thing to do.
Like ive split with an gf and all we did after was argue if we saw each other so dont really talk anymore. But then another gf we split but cause it was for the best as relationship wasnt working out, we both wanted to split up so there was no hard feelings and we still talk n see each other reguarly (we split like 2 yrs ago)
I had a girlfriend, now we're friends. We argued quite a lot at one point but recently she's been much nicer. If it carries on like this I'm thinking of letting her out of the cupboard soon.
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