word to big bird(er)!
i think the conedodgers servers are very well run, and getting better all the time. i think one of the reasons you see such an emphasis in enforcing the blue flag rules in the chat screen is that the races there are very competative, and everyone wants a good clean race. it's very rare for anyone to actually be lapped in a 10 lap race, and the vast majority of blue flag warnings are a result of people joining mid-race. when there are 20 cars on track, with the top 10 finishing within 20 seconds of the leader, even the smallest disruption caused by a late joiner can ruin a very exciting race for several drivers (not just the one directly interfered with).
there are a ton of servers available online, and i would say that conedodgers is one of the best and most fun going, but if you are still learning how to handle the car in heavy traffic, it might not be the best place to practice, simply because it's so competetive.
but for those who insist on giving it a go, at least try to finish your races when you start them, even if you go off in T1. if you end up a minute or more behind the leaders, so what? you'll finish the race, get some experience, and you wont see any blue flags. but if you keep crashing and rejoining, you ruin everyone's fun, including your own.
my 3 cents...