The thing is, people don't think of a car in the right way. Your car shouldn't be something that you are sitting inside controlling in your mind. You shouldn't think "I tell the car to do this and then such happens". If you do that, you will crash. You cannot solely use logic. Your car starts oversteering/understeering, you can't start thinking about what the book you read said to do.
Your car must be an extension of your own body. You literally must feel what the car feels in my opinion. Like the amount of space that your car takes up. Some people hit things because they think their car is smaller then it really is. You have to be able to feel when you are close to objects. I mean, when you're walking on foot you don't run into things everywhere.
But the problem with your car being an extension of yourself is that traction control, stability control, and such make that more difficult. Traction control systems usually do not interface very well with humans. It ends up feeling un-natural. ABS feels too blocky and digital. Now, if there were an ABS system that worked smoothly, and kept the tires right at optimum slip, then it would feel really natural.