I like my girls to be as much of an enigma as I am. Confidence is great, but vulnerability can be equally alluring - so a girl with both is onto a winner. I like girls with depth so some emo stuff is good provided it doesnt overpower them, I dont want a project.
I tend to put my deeper stuff behind humour and can go entire evenings without saying a single serious thing, and other times i'm switching between deep and humour within the same sentence. Anyone I date has to be able to keep up with me, a sense of humour is essential to understand when i'm joking and when i'm not.
I'm intelligent and I like to discuss intellectual things. A partner who can challenge me cerebrally and expand my horizons is going to be more rewarding for me than one who cannot.
I love tattoo's, I like a body that is decorated when it is naked. I dont think it matters too much what a girl looks like although I do get turned off by extreme obesity, I can handle a bit of chubb but there comes a point where the folds are just a turn off. All the same, I do like tattoo's.
I don't go for girls who are ultra femme or ultra butch at all, I like a girl who is equally at home doing sports as she is doing embroidery. I don't like it when gender roles are rigidly enforced as i'm happy with who I am and accept that my psychological mix comprises elements of both gender stereotypes, and I like a partner who is also equally comfortable in any role.
I get frustrated with girls who cannot express themselves, those who are unable to say how they feel, so i'm more drawn to creatives like artists, writers, and musicians who have the ability to externalise how they feel. There are times I need to leech emotions, and I look to my partner to provide that.
I'm not turned off by kinks, i'm adaptable and will do most things, but I struggle with open relationships and casual liasons as i'm very monogomous myself. I have had this challenged before and I continue to have difficulty with it.
I have a dark past and although I left it behind me i'm still drawn to the darker side. A girl with some street, gang or crime background is much more likely to have the capacity both to deal with me, and to have the same spirit for life and excitement that I crave. Saying that i'm a very timid and matured woman these days and my past is behind me where i'd rather it stayed, I don't want a partner who'll drag me back into that world.
I can't cook, I don't want to learn, it holds no interest for me. Any girl who can cook and passes most of the above is a serious candidate for my heart.
Wealth doesnt matter, I grew up with a silver spoon I know what money is and what it does. Poverty doesnt matter, I have known the nearest a Brit can get to poverty and it doesnt bother me. Money has no rellevence to my life, anyone driven by money, wealth or power wont even get as far as a 1 night stand.
As for how I like my guys... well, that'd be saying - but Tristan would fare well ;P