My girlfriend said she supports my interests and supports me being involved in them. I haven't driven a lap in months, and I haven't done a damn thing on my portfolio since before father's day. Last year. Despite the fact that she keeps saying that we need to stop spending all our time together, she keeps getting me to do things with her every night.
Does your girlfriend have any of her own hobbies, completely separate from you? (shopping doesn't count, now that you live together you will be forced to do it with her) If she doesn't, you no longer do either.
She does... she's reading/writing a lot and also does quite a bit of spiritual stuff (meditation, etc). The thing that is getting in the way for both of us is that we prefer to spend the time together at the moment, but once the pink glasses are completely off, we'll probably both find our way back to our hobbies. Let's keep the hopes up for now...
She buys records for me, i buy books and flowers for her...
I still manage to do music while living with my girlfriend. I've got a band on the go at the moment and I also go busking with a couple of different guitarists. I try to play every day and although I do miss a few it's usually because all my other life stuff gets in the way, and by the time all that's done either I'm too tired or it's too late to start bashing out tunes on a double bass.
I don't really play computer games any more though. I'll still play one sometimes if I just want to relax but they are a bit of a waste of time really aren't they.
Hey not to worry. After about 15 years of marriage in which your children become the age where they hate you, you'll be able to have your hobbies back. I was just out flying my RC airplane this evening. Wouldn't have been able to do that 2 years ago as I wasn't just a stupid dad whom needs to be hated back then.
Teenage years are starting way too early for my kids...
I couldn't do that... I could deal with it if my partner wasn't into the things i was, but if it was making it hard for me to do said things...i'd go nutty.
I couldn't ever be with someone that didn't enjoy the things i do, i love it that my gf comes out and enjoys fetching me spanners/sockets.
Shes slowly distanced herself from the raving/clubbing, but she still enjoys coming out occasionaly with me.
What if we don't have any kids? That's more the line in life I'm aiming for... at the moment, anyways.
Stick with it, though. Your wee ones will love you again once they finish college!
She makes an effort, but it's only the stuff that we go out to do (I've been to more concerts since I met her than I probably had in the previous 23 years of life). My own personal at home hobby stuff is what is getting the shaft; I've only fired up a sim once in the last 4 or 5 months probably. Not that I'm a recluse who needs his video games, but damnit I love driving vintage formula cars around a wet Spa (and into the trees, when appropriate).