I don't think this will help much but its become my way of living really. Let me take this time to apologise for my spelling in this post though, been at work all day, tired and my keyboard is not working 100% so all in i expet my spelling to suck.
My way of living life, my ethos really, is that life will have its ups and downs and nothing you can do in the grand scheme of things to control them so why get focused on the times your down and try to change it. Yeah your in a rough patch but focusing on it, for me anyway, winds me up in my own self pity so I know things will get better in time and i just let it change.