The thing about all these non-conformists are that they're all the same! (I think I ripped that off of a t-shirt or something)
Based on similar experience, I think your friends are probably being a bit hypocritical because though they're harrassing you for liking music just because it's commercially successful, I bet they are (whether consciously or not) just forming these opinions to jive with a similar trend. Like others have mentioned, it's "cool" to dislike whatever happens to be popular, and vice versa. I wouldn't worry too much about your "friends'" snide comments; they're either just going through a phase and they'll learn to appreciate a wider variety of music based simply on its musical merit - or they're not just going through a phase and you probably won't want to hang out with them much in the future.
Personally, I have an enormous library of very
very different music styles. I appreciate many different flavors of music that conventionally wouldn't co-exist very well. I enjoy everything from old-school jazz, melodic death metal, classical, some cheesy pop music, classic rock, electronica, and even some particular rap artists. The only genre I can think of that I absolutely can't stand is the modern "country music." Here, I'll shuffle my library and list the first handful of songs that pop up: Down in a Hole - Alice in Chains; California Uber Alles - Dead Kennedys; Concatenation - Meshuggah; Perhaps, Perhaps, Perhaps - Cake; Mr. Krinkle - Primus; Father Lucifer - Tori Amos; Die Entführung aus dem Serail, opera, K. 384: Overture - W.A. Mozart; Phoenix - The Prodigy; Cousin Mary - John Coltrane; Felonies of the Christian Art - Old Man's Child. Admittedly though, I'm a metal-head at heart. When I pick up a guitar, metal comes out. But when I'm on the piano I end up playing jazz/blues or classical stuff. On the drums though I tend toward latin-style or metal beats.
I don't know, I guess I can see both sides of the coin. I mean, being a musician who's never made a significant amount of money out of it I most certainly do become frustrated and a bit angry when I see/hear groups in the top 40s or whatever who really have no musical talent - and I see it a lot! It seems to me that there IS a significant cross-section of the industry that is based solely on an IMAGE or banking on a particular style that happens to be selling. I mean, there are people who claim to be like "Image Managers" and will help bands in LA decide what to wear and everything - WTF? But the way you talk about the music you like, I can tell you're not just another sucker that buys whatever MTV says is hip at the moment, but that you actually appreciate music for its inherent value. That's great. While I can't stand to listen to Linkin Park for more than the time it takes to change it, if that's what gets your blood going then that's cool with me! (I will admit to owning an Ace of Base album though
) You mentioned Barry White too? Rock on! While of course his music has been popular, I wouldn't say it's like "mainstream" or "commercialized" or whatever... It's just good music!
Ok well this is getting overlength, so anyway, just tell your friends to suck it. They're just being dumbasses.
EDIT: @ jayhawk: Yes, the bebop era is the greatest imo!
Also, anyone into Dream Theater? My tickets to go see them in Berkeley in a couple weeks just came in the mail this afternoon!!! Be jealous! (Though I do need to study the new album a bit more...)